Category: Teen Topics
So yesterday me and my friend got this guy she liked to go and hang with us. We did for a bit for about an hour and a half but he said earlier how he planned to go to a party after and to come. so we're driving while he says this and we pull over by his friend's house and he gets out and talks to him for a bit and we're in my friend's car. he comes back. So we drive to the beach and hang out there for about half hour just smoking a joint or whatever and walking around. then he's like how he's not going to go to the party after all but didn't say why, but pulls out a cell to look at the time and it's not his cuz his isn't working. so we're betting it's this other guy he was talking to when we pulled over, cellphone. and he's like how he has work in the morning. funny he didn't mention that before we left his house. so we drive him back to his house. now i know he's lying and almost positive he left his house as soon as we left, i'm pissed he lied about it, and i won't see him till monday, but i want him to confess that he ditched us and want to know why, but i don't want to do it in a way that'll make him mad..i just want to know why he was so ready to go party and all of a sudden "he has work"..i'm thinking his friend gave him his cell so they could meet up after..i thaught he was cooler than that and don't know why he didn't just say why he all of a sudden didn't want us to go. my friend likes him and he knows it but he doesn't do dating, even though he says she's cool and hot and all this and not like most girls..and he claims he doesn't just fuck anything that moves just cuz they throw themselves at him. but i'm thinking maybe he didn't want to hurt her feelings cuz he planned to do just that, even though she's not like these stupid girls who try to jump him lol. but my point is, he lied to me, and her, and i always thaught of him as genuine. so how do i confront him about this without flipping out. i just want to know why he felt he had to lie. but i don't want to argue with him cuz we're still friends, but if i found out i was right about him lying, omg i'll be pissed. and it'll be messed up cuz we work together in one of my classes everyday and he sits next to me and usually walks with me to my next class cuz it's near mine. i was planning to talk to him about it this weekend but he works all sonday, don't know about today and tomorrow. i can't call his house anyways cuz lost his number, and his cell is still broken..sorry if this was long but i'm mad and upset and yeah. help. lol
and i *could* be barking up a wrong tree, but i'm pretty convinced he lied. i'll feel really dumb if he was telling the truth, but i doubt it.
Janelle, if you think he was lying, why don't you just ask him about the matter next time you guys meet up. You don't have to turn it into an argument or flip out about it.
And out of all the things a person can lie about, why is this so important? Is the matter really worth stressing over?
Either confront him calmly about this or just let it slide.
cuz a lie is a lie and it's sort of annoying knowing he did and he's the last person i'd expect this from. sort of a slap really.
So, wait, firstly I is upper case I, secondly, dude, smoking pot is like illegal, if a cop asked you about it, would you lie and say you didn't, because, you know, a lie is a lie, and thirdly, may be the friend didn't want to hang out. May be he found you boring, may be he had a hot date, may be he wanted to spank his monkey and watch the weather channel (no, not indicative of my typical Thursday night, it's just an example of a whacky . thing he might have wanted to do), culd he really have been able to tell you that without quite an awkward silence, and is it really your business what he chooses to do with his time? If I had sort of friends that tried to call me out if I used a lie to get out doing something I didn't want to I'd think them rude, inconsiderate and not worth hanging out with, big drama queens. It's different in, say, a relationship or with a very close friend and even if it is a close friend, if he or she wants to do something else and lies about it, that's ok. So, simple as that, may be he just didn't want to hang out with you guys, and since you are so honest, do go talk to the cops about the weed.
Well, like I said, if it bothers you that much, just ask him what was going on that night. If he chooses to tell you, then he does. But if not, you must either deal with that or investigate further if it really piques your interest.